Along with the book The Secret, I also had to read the book The Four Agreements prior to my yoga teacher training and it was life changing. The principals of this book are so simple, yet it provided some perspectives I hadn’t thought of much before. The four agreements are:
- Be impeccable with your word
- Don’t take anything personally
- Don’t make assumptions
- Always do your best
I will be covering each of the four agreements over the next few weeks.
Be Impeccable With Your Word
What does this first agreement mean? It means to speak with integrity and say only what you mean. This is something I am continuously working on. Have you ever played games with your partner, family member or friend where you say one thing but mean something completely different? They should know you well enough to know what you actually mean, right? Wrong! Think back to a time you did this. How did it turn out? I can think of many times I did this and it usually ended with disappointment and an argument. Life would be much more simple if we all said exactly what we meant.
Avoid using the word to speak against yourself. Do you often talk about yourself negatively? This could be just in your head or out loud to others. Pay attention to your self talk. If it isn’t something you would say to your best friend, why would you say it to yourself? Can you take a compliment or do you brush it off with something negative about yourself?
Also, avoid using the word to gossip about others. This was a big one for me. I grew up in a very small town where everybody knows everybody and word (true or not) travels very fast. It is so easy to get caught up in the drama and gossip when it is all around you. Be the person that stands up and walks away from it. What do you benefit from knowing very personal details about someone that they didn’t share with you themselves? We all know that as something gets passed from one person to the next, a detail may be left out or changed and by the time it gets around it is a completely different story.
Instead, choose to use the power of you word in the direction of truth and love! Imagine the look on someone’s face if you were to say something to lift them up… it is pretty great, right? Now think of how you would feel… pretty great too, right? The idea behind this agreement is very simple. Putting it into action might seem difficult, especially if you, like me, have lived years the opposite way.
I challenge you to start out with just being aware:
- Have you said expected someone to find the hidden meaning behind something you said?
- How many times a day do you talk about someone else to a friend, coworker, etc?
- Are you spreading something false about someone to make a story a little juicer, to bring them down or hurt them in some way?
Once you become aware of how you use your word. Start trying to make positive changes. I promise you will feel lighter and happier by following this agreement.